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Highlight Hiker Blog

November 5, 2020

Abram S. Hewitt State Forest, State Line Trail, NJ through Sterling Forest, Appalachian Trail Corridor, NY

The best part about solo hiking is the opportunity to learn about yourself. There aren’t any distractions (unless you create them), and the only person to talk is… well… YOU. And the trees, and birds, and the ancient rock if you believe that they listen. But the point here is that it’s an opportunity to look deeper at yourself without distraction. And since you’re challenging the better part of yourself physically, there ain’t nowhere for that mental energy to hide. You have to be your own trusted climbing partner, confidant, cheering squad, therapist, and team coach. Out here, there is no one to help you but your will and whatever you have in your backpack. You learn to be resilient.

So it’s fitting, I think, that the second to last hike that I had to complete on the NY/NJ Trail Conference map #116 came with using every -ism I had in my toolbox to get me through. It was a great challenge, and I was genuinely afraid a few times. But these little mantras got me through. So here are my top 5 what I like to call “Highlight-isms” that I’d like to share with you, in no particular order.

#1. “It doesn’t matter when you get there, as long as you get there.”

So often hikers race to get to the end. Long distance hikers, especially. There are people who seek out the FKT, and I just wonder… why? You miss all the good stuff! The tale is told within the making of the story, and when you’re rushing through it, essential details are missed. Slow down, take your time. Stop and listen. I used to get upset with myself when I would get passed (usually uphill) by other hikers… they’d be smiling and enjoying themselves, where I’d be huffing and puffing and red-faced. I used to be upset by my limitations: my age, my level of fitness, my fear of injury on poor terrain. But now I just pull over to the side and let them pass with a smile myself. I’ve come to know that my journey is my own, and I like it the way it is. I’m such a curious human that I stop along the way to take photos, or research a tree… to find out the historical significance of a place, or to know how glacial erosion works. Some people just aren’t into that. And that’s ok. They want to get in and get out… I want an experience. I want to be able to remember each unique trail. We all end up back at the parking lot eventually. Who cares if I’m slow and stop up the hill? It gives me an opportunity to look up.

#2. “You can do more than you think you can do.”

This is a Highlight-ism that started in the theater. I started acting when I was 5. I spent my life on the stage and it was the foundation for the person I am today. When I moved into directing, I found that actors were far too nervous about dropping their script. For some it was a security blanket and they wouldn’t put it down long after they should have. To those actors I would always say, “You know more than you think you do.” The only way to learn, and to memorize particularly, is to stop worrying and just do. First of all, so what! You made a mistake. That’s what rehearsal is for! But when you drop a line, what do you do? You clench up. Your muscles seize. You freeze. Your brain comes to a screeching halt. My thought is when you’re struggling for a line; relax. Once you stop worrying, BOOM! The line will appear. It works so well that I translated that philosophy to hiking. For many hundreds of miles I didn’t feel like a “real” hiker. I wasn’t hiking long distances and I didn’t know anything about navigation or boot fit or what I needed in a backpack. It took a lot of trial and error (mainly error) to know what is purposeful on the trail and I’ll tell you the secret to what it is. The most important thing to pack for every trail is your mentality. Your best ‘I can accomplish whatever I set my mind to doing’ attitude. Call it stubbornness, or persistence, bull headedness… I prefer tenacity myself… but it’s what drives me to keep going. Push up that hill, climb up that ladder, jump across those boulders, cross that stream on a log, not let your fear of heights make you miss that photo op. On this hike, my biggest challenge was to push through some sketchy rock climbing (and thank god I had some exposure to climbing thanks to my amazing sister). I needed to summon the courage to haul my big old round butt across (yeah, not up but across) a rock wall. Pulling and pushing and stretching and gripping… and breathing, breathing, breathing. I was terrified but I did it. Because I knew I would. And if I doubted myself I said, “C’mon Highlight! You can do more than you think you can do! STOP DOUBTING AND START DOING!” and y’know what? It worked.

#3. “Keep walking. Don’t stop. Don’t think. Just march along.”

This is a good one to pull out of the toolbox when I’m tired…. and/or I didn’t bring enough water... and/or if I’m plain old miserable... and/or if I am behind on time because I stopped to do that research-y thing that I do. It’s a lot like the aforementioned bull headedness/tenacity-thing but whereas “You can do more than you think you can do” is reserved for situations when I am afraid that I can’t accomplish a task, this mantra is saved for the times when I just don’t WANT to do the task. There’s no quittin’ in the middle of the forest, peoples. You need to keep going. Regardless the pain of injury, the exhaustion of elevation, the plantar fasciitis, the thirst or hunger or both. Personally, I like snacks and caffeine to keep myself going, but when those can’t be the solution it’s all about mind over matter. And I win that game by staying in motion. Mostly because if I stop, defeating thoughts will creep in and when you’re a mile or more from your trail head, there is no room for self-doubt. I need to keep an eye on the trail, or the terrain, or the map, or the time and just. keep. moving.

#4. “If you don’t know what it is, don’t touch it”

Ah yes. That old adage. I learned it while scuba diving. But it’s true. And in the woods there a lot of things you have no business touching. Especially we curious humans who feel that part of the learning process means tactile-y exploring the world around you. Think I’m kidding…? Beyond rattlesnakes, bears, and the common poison ivy, oak and sumac, there are plenty of other species that offer a kiss of illness or even death. A few of them are: larkspur, lupines, water hemlock, locoweed (for my hippie friends, relax: that has nothing to do with pot), halogeton, amanita phalloides, amanita bisporigera, morels, false morels, shaggy mane, sulphur shelf… you get the picture. Trust me: it’s easier to just not touch it.

#5. “The bigger the challenge, the bigger the reward.”

Y’allsies have read this one from me countless times. It’s the tried and true. It’s timeless, ageless, perfect for every situation, worthy of all struggles big and small. THERE IS ALWAYS A REWARD. Use your tenacity to get past that hurdle you face and get yours! You can do it. I believe in you.


Needless to say, State Line and the AT Corridor were tough. I don’t care what anybody says, that is a tough climb with tough terrain and some hairy sections. It’s 6.5 miles of perfect. It includes the highest point on the AT through New York at 1433’. Further nobo, it’s where I introduced myself to my vulture friend in the cover photo. I’m not a huge fan of heights… they makes me feel dizzy… so this out-and-back hike pushed me in the right direction to both test my fear and conquer it.

And now, there is only one monstro hike left on map #116!!! How should I reward myself when it is complete??? Oooh! So many options! (Highlight drifts off thinking about gear she needs)

=ahem= Back to the task at hand! It was a great day. The best part of this adventure is the story found in the photo captions, so please enjoy!